These words pierced my heart when they were spoken by Oakland the other day.
He hears these phrases alllllllll the time.
- she is sooooo cute
- I love that read hair
- she is beautiful
- awwwww
- + more..
Oakland has gotten to the point of calling out his sister to an audience saying ” Look at my red- headed sister!” It was really cute at first. Now I wonder his intentions for saying it.
Having Oakland as an only child for 3+ years meant a lot of spoiling and one on one time. I have told him that yes people would stop and say things about how cute he was but with a baby girl ( especially with red hair) they are much more common… 🙂
I have also had to tell him numerous times that he got our undivided attention for a long time without having to share it with a sibling. It’s hard to balance alone time with them seperately. I want them both to feel my love and each share alone time with just mommy.
I feel guilty at times that Ainsley has to share time with her brother BUT then I think about the huge blessing 2 children is! I praise my Heavenly Father for blessing me with a girl and a boy!!!
That’s what satan is telling me and trying to fill my head with…. negative thoughts saying:
I am a bad mother, I am not good enough, I need to stay at home to be a better mom, I need to devote more time to my kids and less to my husband, I need to change the way God made me, I need to worship my children….. the list goes on….
Jesus says the opposite.
He says….
I am a wonderful mother!
I am enough, he made me in HIS image!
Having to work while leaving your children in someone else’s care is a tough thing to do but he gives me grace and peace and says “Good Job”
You need to put your husband first and affirm him daily.
You are beautiful the way I made you Brittany.
You need to worship ME, remember NO other God’s, No idols…..; I am your God, not your children or your belongings!
Remember what God says today if you are alike me and the struggle is real and constant.
I think constantly reading God’s words and knowing these truths helps us as mothers to know what we are doing is good and that He is pleased with us!
Love it – so true
Great perspective on holding onto God's truths sweet sister!!
What a great perspective. I often feel so guilty about working but I have to keep in mind that God made me who I am and I like working because that is how he wanted me to be.
Interesting too about the girl getting all of the compliments and how that might effect a little guy. I am sure that was heart breaking to feel like he was needing some affirmation like his lil sis gets. Something for me to keep in mind if we have more kiddos. I would have never thought about that.
Have a great day girl!
This is so encouraging for me to hear right now. I have an 18 month old son and my baby girl is due this weekend! As excited as I am, I am having a lot of mixed emotions. I know it is satan. Everything will be wonderful, although not without challenges. BTW I love the name Oakland!
Such a great reminder!! You are a great mother and both of your kids are blessed to have you!!
Bless you for having the strength to work it through. Maintaining your faith will always get you through those tough times. Working moms need support too. Your perspective is so sound and clear.
I often question what it will be like when/if we have another child as far as feeling guilty about the attention they have or haven't received. This is such a great perspective and reminder! Thanks for sharing love!
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I can tell you as a mom of 4 whose children are all 26 months apart from each other, there will always be sibling rivalry and complaints, BUT that never outshines the moments of pure love that they have for each other. Even though my youngest three never got just 1 on 1 without siblings, they know that they have so many people that love them.
The adversary never wants to see that joy which is why he will continue to fill you with negative thoughts. He wants to see you fail because then his plan gains momentum. You are strong and are doing an amazing job.
I get down on myself all the time with the mommy negativity!
but you are doing amazing!! Keep reminding yourself because you are! 🙂
Omgosh how cute is that little man though!!? really!! Look at my sister and her red hair!
Adorable!!!
Having a big brother like that is the best blessing ever for your little red haired beauty!
Poor little guy! It's so easy to give attention the tiny babies, and so easy to forget about the older kids who are learning all about feelings and insecurities! We must remember to devote equal love and attention to all children <3
As a mama with every intention of having another, I am so very concerned that I will not be giving my son the attention he so badly deserves. This, I will be working so hard on!
This is beautiful! I love every line of this. Well said, mama.
I'm sure my mom went through the same thing after I was born. I was the first girl in the family and my brother was used to getting all of the attention. Overall he was pretty laid back (still is, like to a fault) but I think you are handling it beautifully. Just keep telling yourself the above things, your children know that you love them. <3
yes! Thank you for this! I'm currently pregnant with our second child and this gets to me every now and then. My son will be over 3.5 by the time the new little one is hear and I'm so thankful that he will be at an age where I can explain and reason with him.