I read an article on FB a few weeks ago and those 6 words changed meal times for this one mom. YOU DON’T HAVE TO EAT IT.
I am still trying to wrap my mind around that phrase because I’m thinking if I say that to Oakland he literally wouldn’t eat it and would go hungry. That scares me.
Dinner time is really difficult for me because it’s a time when there is a lot of arguing, yelling, frustration, and worry. ALL on my part. I hate it. I don’t like acting that way. I don’t like yelling at him. I want him to eat. I want him to be healthy. I don’t want him to go to bed hungry. All of these thoughts are running through my head because if he does not eat it is a reflection of my parenting.
Well, what I say has meaning, what I do has meaning, but above all else I am ultimately not in control. I like to think I am but I am not. These children are not my own. Their bodies are not mine. I am their mother and they need to listen and do as I say but I do and say in a negative way sometimes.
For example: Tonight at dinner we had pizza…. Oakland’s FAVORITE! I thought tonight will be easy he’ll eat this up in no time especially after having soccer.. nope I was wrong. He only wanted 1 small, tiny piece. Ainsley eats more than him most of the time and it gets to me. I raise my voice and tell him that he needs to obey and eat his dinner… he argues back with me and this arguing will go on and on// because I let it. I have to win. Whatever way necessary. NO, that is not how I want it to go but usually is.
I cater to Oakland. I give him dinners that I know he will eat. If we are having pasta his is left plain. The rest of ours has sauce on it. Am I a bad mom for doing that? No. Is it a pain? Yes.
I need to just let go of this fight. If he is hungry I need to know that he will eat. He won’t starve. He will eventually eat something.
He’s already a skinny boy so I worry that he isn’t getting the proper nutrition. Worry- ugh I despise you. Worry is not from the Lord.
What the Bible says about worry: Matthew 6:25-27 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?
God is in constant control. He is the giver of all good things. He is the reason I am here. He is the reason I am a mother. He is everything. To God be the glory and the honor, Amen!
Let’s give this worry to the Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Speaking of eating I wanted to showcase a few of my favorite eating items!