At least for me these words make me cringe.
Yesterday I was on my phone way too much in front of Ainsley… which is something I am constantly struggling with. She said this ” Get off your phone mommy!” She doesn’t say that to me ever and it really hit home. I DO not want my daughter to remember me always having a phone in my face. The years are short with my little miracles and I have no idea how long I will get to hold them. That decision is not up to me.
Putting down the phone is a decision that is solely up to me! I take full responsibility for my actions and apologized to Ainsley.
That was the first thing she said. Then she said this.
I was frustrated with her old brother because he is having a hard time with listening and obeying. She said “It’s okay mommy.” As a mother I always want everything to be okay and there to be nothing wrong with what I am doing or saying. That just isn’t the case because I am not perfect. For her to say that really tugged at my heart. It is okay and it will be okay. There is no sense in getting worked up over something so small.
I act like I have it all together when really I am a mess. A BEAUTIFUL MESS. I am flawed. I raise my voice way to often. I get annoyed with the smallest things. I don’t want to do the dishes. I get real tired of repeating myself 1000 times a day. I want to take naps during the day. I have road rage. I don’t eat enough vegetables. I bite my cuticles. I don’t like a lot of water on me. I hate washing my hair. I wish I could potty train my daughter.
None of those things compare to the JOY I get from being a mother. Being a mother is stinking hard and Satan tries to steal my joy every. single. day.
I must make a conscious effort to not let Satan win and take what is NOT his.
So today if you are feeling down and worthless please know that you are SO WORTH it all. You are gorgeous. You are doing an amazing job at whatever God has called you to.
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I struggle with this too! (Don’t we all?) My husband is working inventory all day today and won’t be home until after the kids are in bed, so I promised my girls we would have a girls night later once their baby brother is asleep and with the exception of taking a few photos, I promised myself to stay off of my phone until they are asleep. It’s hard when you are home with littles all day and social media is the extent of your “grown up talk”, but like you said, I don’t want my kids to remember me with a phone in my hand at all times! Thanks for sharing this mama.
Yes!!! Oh YES I bet!!! The Summer has been tough… usually I am teaching all day so the phone isn’t as accessible! Thanks for reading honey!
I loved this post and it hit home too! Thank you for your encouraging words!
Thank you so much Aly for your honesty and for reading it! Keep being fab!
I think of these things often!!!!
Lovely to read Brittany! I’m also a mum that has heard those words. Or had my phone hidden by either a 2, 3 or 5 year old 😁
It’s all about spinning the plates & taking each day as it comes isn’t it? Xx
I love this! I am all the things you mentioned, too! My littlest one isn’t old enough to tell me to get off my phone yet but what she does is grabs my face and turns it to look at her… it makes me sad every single time! It really is a struggle.
While I’m not a mom yet (hopefully in the next few years), I love reading posts like this! I love getting an honest and encouraging glimpse into motherhood. Don’t know if it’ll actually “prepare” me any more, but it’s always fun to see. 🙂
Beautiful reminder. It is so easy to be hard on ourselves as mothers. Thank your for the encouragement. The part about your phone is something I have been struggling with. I am trying to limit my time on the phone but man, the struggle is real!
Although I’m not a mom, I really enjoyed reading your post. <3
Loved reading this, I really can relate. I love your perspective and encouragement.
Love this Brittany! Thank you so much for sharing. I’m always telling myself I need to get off my phone and pay more attention to Grey. I need to set some limits!
Great post Brittany and I couldn’t agree with you more. Something I know I often have to consciously remind myself..focusing on the now not the phone. I have been in quite the funk lately and this post was just what I needed. Xx
I think we all struggle with this! I’m always on the phone or computer because I work from home. I hate that my kiddos see it all the time. I try to take lots of breaks and always pay attention to Jack when he is talking to me or tries to show me something. Thank you for the wonderful reminder that we all have flaw and that motherhood is the absolute best!
Awwww, girl. I sooooooo get this!! Thanks for being transparent and encouraging. Sharing our stories with each other goes such a long way in building true community and not feeling alone. You’re an amazing mama, friend. You’re teaching those babies good, good things.
Great post! Mommyhood isn’t always rainbows and glittering unicorn farts. I love a post that acknowledges the real life struggles.
I am so guilty of this! Some days I feel like a rockstar mom and some days I feel like I’m failing so hard! I try to remember there’s no point in striving for perfection- my kids don’t want perfection! They want me! So I try to lift them up and know it’s okay for them to see my mistakes because we are all human and we have all been gifted with Grace from our Father!
What a beautiful post. Thank you.
This is such a great reminder. Thanks for writing this post Brittany!
This is a great post and a reminder to us all to put down our phones every once in awhile (or a lot)! I also really enjoyed reading your list of what makes you not perfect, because I relate to so many of the same things. Thank you for your honesty.
Reality check for sure! This is something I struggle with daily! Thank you!!!
Girl me too! It’s a good read for my everyday! Thanks for reading!! 🙂